Failing to adapt commonly leads to pointing fingers and the blaming of others for your own unhappiness.

A perfect example to see this happening is the debate. It’s funny that once every few years everyone becomes political masterminds that knows everything about everyone. I never talk politics, or ever will, simply because your life’s circumstances influence who you want to see in that oval office.

Simply put, to each their own. When one thing goes up, somewhere in the system something has to go down. Some people lose and some people win.

My point here is, how much of your well-being are you placing in other people’s hands? Are you really in a system that limits you so greatly that it comes to the point of blaming others for how you ultimately live your life? Who’s responsible for your life if not yourself?

I made a commitment to myself a few years ago: I will never blame anyone or anything for the responsibility of my own well-being.

If the rules change, then adapt; or get into a position where you can change the rules the way you want it.

If you don’t like the way a country is ran, then leave.

If you don’t like what’s being said, then get into a position of power to change the conversation.

Standing on the sideline, flailing your arms around, and blasting tweets on your timeline is a vicious cycle that leads you back to where you started.

Are some things simply unfair? Absolutely — but who said life is about being fair? Constantly blaming the government, people, or the systems that are in place will lead you nowhere. You will feel good after ranting, but tomorrow you will wake up with the same problems.

You are responsible for every facet of your life. You have not only the freedom, but the power to change and lead your life based on your own desires and what you ultimately tell yourself (your thoughts). Sure, maybe the blue-tied man or the red-tied man wants to carry out plans that bump head-to-head with your own.

So is complaining and blaming others effective?

Failing to adapt, at the end of the day, is merely an excuse. The question is, do you care enough to take the time to make a difference? Or is that one tweet, that one Facebook status, that one blog post enough for you to say, “Okay, I did what I had to. Now let everyone else do the work for me and ultimately be in charge of how good my life will be.”?

If it’s important, find a way. If not, become aware of the excuses you use and where you point your finger.